Embodied Sexuality

Heart Core Blog

 In August 2017 I was asked to present a video talk called “Embodied Sexuality” for the Justisse Fertility Awareness Educators Conference at the Bethlehem Centre in Nanaimo. I want to thank Lisa Leger for this opportunity and Cathy McNally for her support and for lending me her arms for a touch demonstration.

The Sword of Consequence

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When I was a boy I spent most of my time in the summer at my grandparent’s home in southern Colorado, usually in the company of several cousins. There was an old- fashioned root cellar under the house which contained many treasures; among these we found a magnificent sword and scabbard incised with regimental designs, […]

Dew of Heaven Observed

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This painting was executed four years ago, in 2013. I had been asked to work up an erotic subject to give honor to a particular non-artistic endeavor of teaching and learning in the sexual domain. In general terms, this is the endeavor to imagine the human body and the “natural order” with it’s full-fledged sexual […]

Lomilomi Heart

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Lomilomi Heart

This painting was inspired by a photograph that was taken during a Lomilomi training that took place two decades ago.  It depicts a particular “lift and fold” move that was once more common in the lomilomi session and is no longer approached except in moments of exceptional immersion in the well-spun flow of the natural […]

The Sexual Attitude Restructuring/Reassessment program (SAR)

Workshops

The Sexual Attitude Restructuring/Reassessment program (SAR) is a cutting edge intense learning event designed for people who wish to better understand their own sexuality and that of others. It is a program dedicated to fulfilling the need for advanced training in human sexuality. Didactic and experiential, SAR offers each person the information and experience necessary […]

Sexual Intelligence for Body, Mind and Heart

Workshops

Do you experience anxiety, heartache, confusion or apathy connected with sexuality and relationships? Do you want to learn erotic skills for enhanced arousal and orgasmic states as well as clarity, communication and connection? This new program in The Haven’s core curriculum teaches erotic literacy for body, mind and heart through surrendering to the ocean of […]

Eros and the Bowl of Light – opening to erotic life for couples – Introductory Workshop

Workshops

With great respect and honor we present the gifts of erotic teachings from ancestral wisdom schools and the Big Stories– like that of Eros and Psyche– to those couples who would like to find fresh ways of being with each other. Many couples grieve the loss of physical closeness in the form of erotic play or sex even […]

Sexual Intelligence for Body, Mind and Heart- reclaiming and celebrating erotic life

Heart Core Blog

Elfi (Emaya) and Gary (Kekoa) Dillon “The original primordial fire of eroticisms is sexuality; it raises the red flame of eroticism, which in turn raises and feeds another flame, tremulous and blue. It is the flame of love and eroticism. The double flame of life.” Octavio Paz, The Double Flame Sexual intelligence is to realize […]

Celebrating the Body Erotic for all Genders

Heart Core Blog

In 1997 a new Bodyelectric workshop was conceived and birthed through Selah Martha and Collin Brown and as an avid fan and facilitator of “Celebrating your body erotic for women” I attended. Five days of “Two Spirits for men and women” as it was known then, radically changed my life. I met my life partner […]

Journey to the holy well: honouring your erotic body – for women

Workshops

Stirring your Cauldron continued: A circle of women is a powerful cauldron for learning about the healing potential of sexual energy. By creating a consensual and relaxed container in time and space we can learn to let go into the pleasure of our body. We discover our deep innate wisdom when we commit to undergo […]

The Askable Parent/Adult

Workshops

Taking the Stress Out of “The Talk”- the Askable Parent/Adult It’s a talk that parents and caregivers often might dread.  “Where do babies come from?”  Many used to rely entirely on “The Talk” at school to provide sexuality information to their children, but it’s becoming increasingly clear that more information is needed. Parents and Caregivers […]

Celebrating the Body Erotic for all Genders

Workshops

A Bodyelectricschool Workshop with Emaya (Elfi) Dillon Shaw & William McMeniman Persons of all genders have so much to learn from and teach to each other. This retreat creates a temporary community that explores and celebrates the potential healing power of all human beings. We use conscious breath, nurturing and taoist erotic massage to help […]

Body, Breath, Sex and Energy for Women – remembering your erotic self!

Workshops

In the bustle of our stressful lives we so often forget the deepest source of energy – our erotic and sensual body!  Sometimes we only become awake when we hurt or feel numb and then look outward to find healing, yet there is a way into your own innate body wisdom that is simple and […]

Conscious Sexuality

Heart Core Blog

Written by Elfi Shaw We are born as a result of the sexual union of two people. Sex is a simple gift of life, natural and awesome. Sexual energy is the potent force that brings us into connection with one another in a very basic way and makes us acutely aware that we are living […]

Opening to Erotic Life

Heart Core Blog

Written by Elfi Shaw and Gary Dillon What does “opening to” something mean? Opening to something means to have a disposition to receive and accept the phenomenon on its own terms. Opening to something means being prepared to bless or praise the phenomenon as worthy, even if it has a shadow side. Opening to something […]